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'Fuck you I do what i want im sooo independent and strong just like every other powerless American teen girl'" -- Callmaury of ARG Teen Forums.
Over the years, I've been known as a beacon of advice to a lot of my friends. They, usually, come to me to advise them on life issues that plague them because they know I'll provide them with the tools they need to solve their problem. However, in this time, I've learned to discern between the persona of a wide range of individuals and one stands out in my mind that always irks my nerves.
The pity plague; a person who will tell you their entire problem in a sequence of events, pitting themselves as a victim. They will claim that they are seeking advice and as demonstrated in the above quote, will note that they are very open minded. This, however, is a false motive. In reality, what they are seeking is pity.
Usually, such individuals are in the wrong on the matter they are explaining to you. For example, they will claim that they were in an argument with Bob. Now, upon analyzing the information provided, I may deduce that Bob has some valid points and try to explain these points. Or I may dish a truck load of reality on the person and provide them with advice, but...
It is advice that they do not want to hear. And because of this, they will get mad at you for not babying them. Often, they will reject legitimate advice because it does not suit their pity party.
Do not be baited into such delusions. The more you coddle these individuals, the more they will believe that they can use people as their emotional blanket/tampon/napkin/washcloth.
People, stop sugar coating your advice to people. Lying to the fat girl asking if they're fat is not helping them; all it will do is encourage them to continue to live an unhealthy lifestyle. You are not helping them. And stop asking for advice and then getting mad when someone doesn't attend your pity party.